Monthly Archives: January 2016

Do those with Facial Disfiguration have to live that way forever? Is it possible to relieve them from the attendant embarrassment and mental agony?(79)


It is said that ‘Beauty is not just skin deep’, and that ‘Beauty lies in the Eyes of the Beholder’. Both these quotes are true to some extent, so far as persons with no gross         facial defect or disfigurement are concerned. However, they offer no concession or consolation to people who are either born with facial defects or deformation, or whose faces become disfigured due to-                                                                                                                    (1) Disorders of pigmentation like Leucoderma- manifesting as localised hypopigmented patches, viz.Vitiligo, or total hypopigmentaton of the whole body,viz. ‘Albinism ‘. Disorders of pigmentation can also exist in the form of Hyperpigmentation of some parts of the body including the face;                                                                                                              (2)Injuries such as acid attacks or vicious slashes on the face with weapons.

Though many of these defects or disfigurements are indeed ‘skin-deep’ in the sense of affecting mainly the skin of the face, some occur as-                                                                                                  (3) Deformation of the facial organs or features too.                                                                                    (4) In some instances, some women are afflicted by hairiness of the face and body.

All these facial cosmetic defects,though not necessarily disabling,nevertheless make the afflicted persons’ life miserable and socially limiting due to their effect of lowering the confidence and self esteem of the affected individuals, as also their chances of marriage.     Of course, as in the case of many tragedies, physical or circumstantial, there are some heart warming instances of such persons being lucky enough to find partners whose eyes and mind have the depth to appreciate and love their ‘Innate Beauty Beneath The Skin’. There is presently, the example of a girl who is a victim of an acid attack, who found the right man who appreciates and loves her for her courage and beauty of her soul than of      her face.Unfortunately, not all afflicted persons are so lucky. It is therefore imperative to devise ways of helping them either by Curative surgical treatment, or Camouflage of the disfiguring patches or parts.

There is remedy for some of the above problems, as for example,                                                      (1) Cosmetic or plastic surgery, (a) by grafting of normal skin taken from some other part of the body onto the disfigured part of the face, (b) depilatory treatment of the excessively hairy parts of the face or limbs of the concerned women. (2)Restoration of the pigment is possible in some cases of Vitiligo by using melanin producing drugs, available in the form of psoralen skin ointments to be applied to the depigmented patches, or oral medicines, followed by exposure to sunlight

However, Cosmetic surgery does not help, or is not applicable, in all cases such as Leucoderma or Hyperpigmentation of the skin, which tends to recur. Therefore,               other methods like (2) Camouflaging of the discoloured parts of the affected skin can be employed, using Natural coloured, fast holding, slowly fading ‘Skin Dyes’, which act in the same way as Mehndi does on the limbs and hair.                                                                                                          (3)Still another cosmetic aid is the provision of ‘Face Masks’, for covering the defective or disfigured parts of the facial skin, which cannot be dyed properly due to roughness or unevenness of the skin, using nonirritant, absorbent and sufficiently stiff textile or fabric, with the normal face of the person, as it used to be (or could have been), painted with fabric paints or printed, on it.

Cosmetic manufacturing companies can take up the above projects to advantage,  and achieve the mission of bringing out the men and women with cosmetic problems fro their ‘Well of Loneliness’!


Who are the True ‘Matrudeva’ and ‘Pitrudeva’ for a child? Those who give birth and bring the child into the world, i.e.the Biological Parents,or the Adoptive/Foster parents, or the unrelated Women and Men,e.g.Teachers(Guru) or Caretakers who bestow more sincere Maternal or Paternal Love and care onto a child?(78)


Who were the real parents of Lord Krishna? Devki and Vasudev or Yashoda and Nanda ?               In Krishna’s case, it is difficult to say because His biological parents were truly helpless, and yet His Father Vasudev waded through the flooded Yamuna to leave the Infant into the safe hands of Yashoda and Nanda of Gokul, to save Him from his cruel maternal uncle, King Kaunsa.

However, what about those parents who throw their child into Garbage bins or jungles      for being born as Girls, and also boys born as Defective children; Or kill girls before or immediately after birth; Or else, rape/sell girls for Immoral Traffic, and boys for making Beggars/Gangsters out of them? Some parents kill their Son’s Wife for not bringing               a fat dowry, or for not getting a son!


Hence I believe in Not Just ‘Matru Devo Bhava’ and ‘Pitru Devo Bhava’, but ,                              ‘Su-Matru Devo Bhava’ and ‘Su-Pitru Devo Bhava’. That is, a Mother and Father are          ‘God figures’ for their child or children, only if they are Loving and Dutiful towards them, Not merely by virtue of being their Biological Parents!

Some boys and girls go to great extents to find out their lost or separated biological parents either out of self pity or curiosity; but this search often leads to utter disappointment, or worse, to a further harsh blow to their already undermined and precarious self esteem, if they are rejected by their socalled ‘real parents’.

Alternatively, their success in tracing their biological parent, especially the mother, can create grave problems in the latter’s life,as for instance, in the case of an innocent unwed mother, who has been persuaded to give her child for adoption. This aspect has been aptly brought out in the film ‘Kabhie Kabhie’ starring Amitabh Bachchan, Waheeda Rehman and Nitu Singh, alongwith Simi Garewal and Parikshit Sahni as the Adoptive parents of the adopted girl played by Nitu Singh, besides Raakhi, Shashi Kapoor and Rishi Kapoor.

The adopted child’s obsession with reaching out to its biological parents can be heart-wrenching for her /his Adoptive parents too, who may feel that they have failed as parents in instilling love in their adopted child’s mind.

any man or woman, related or unrelated, who adopts or fosters and raises         a child with genuine and deep Love and Care, is also, and should be venerated as also, worshipped as his or her ‘Real God’!